Looking into the mirror there is no denying what I see. I see an aging person staring back at me. No amount of surgery, hair dye, injectales, healthy diet, and exercise or a stress free lifestyle will stop the inevitable. However, taking a proactive approach to aging may just make it a little easier.
They say the truth lies in your ability to look yourself in the mirror each day. Your mirror image reflects your conscience. It also reflects every flaw, line and sag. And if you look deep enough and long enough you may miss the essence of who you are for the sorted details.
We all do it. Everyone looks into a mirror scrutinizing the person looking back at us. Sometimes we think we know this person and sometimes this person seems so foreign. But it is the only time we really see ourselves. In the mirror we see ourselves at our very best and at our very worst.
I remember when my children were babies and the first time they caught their refection in the mirror. They squealed with delight as they tried to touch and babble at the strange baby looking back at them .We never remember the first time we meet our reflection, but once we are fully aware we return each day for another glimpse.
In one of my books, Sex Matters, I refer to the magic mirror exercise.
Next, each morning, you will do the magic mirror exercise. Self-love means being able to truly look at yourself and love what you see reflecting back. Your mirror is your reflection, and, like all reflections, if you truly focus, you will be able to see the beauty beneath the surface. Folklore, legend, and fairy tales are full of stories about magic mirrors. Your bathroom mirror is a great place to gaze at you each morning to give self-love. When you brush your teeth, put on makeup, comb your hair, wash your face, or shave, look deep into the reflection past the image, and say, “I love you, you are terrific, you are beautiful, you can accomplish anything you desire, because you’re special.”
You may think this sounds silly, but the alternative is to say, “Yuk! Look at that aging person. I feel so depressed.” What if instead you said good morning to yourself with a smile and reminded yourself that the reflection is not really you. The essence of you is so much more. You are the twinkle in your eye, the sound of your laughter and the warmth of your soul.
The truth is what you see reflecting back is not really you. The mirror doesn’t always tell the truth. If it did every day you would only see staring back at you this miraculous being living this incredible life. The reflection of age would disappear and you would be so grateful that you have finally reached the time in life where scrutinizing your faults gives way to embracing your natural maturing beauty.
Proactive Anti-Aging Tip - when you look in the mirror wink, smile and be happy that you’ve let go of all the agonizing pressure that was put upon your appearance when you were young. And then ask yourself this question: "How old would you be if you didn't know how old you was*?" Satchel Paige (1906-1982). Because the mirror sometimes lies!